When a relationship gets rocky, couples counseling is often seen as a last resort. But what exactly is this “last resort?” What are couples thinking when they come to counseling? Many see the purpose of couples counseling as to save the marriage, but its scope is far broader. Surely, counseling can be about rekindling aContinueContinue reading “What Path Forward? Save the marriage, separate peacefully, or discern between the two…”
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Couples Counseling: The Four Horsemen
In the Book of Revelation, The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse are described as death, famine, war, and conquest. In couples counseling, the Four Horseman of Relationship Apocalypse are often described as criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. These are the destructive relational patterns identified in Dr. John Gottman’s research that are common to unhappy couples.ContinueContinue reading “Couples Counseling: The Four Horsemen”
Partners on Opposite Sides of the Mountain
We often make the mistake of assuming that our view of a relationship is the onlycorrect view. We tend to see the relationship from our perspective, and we get mad orfrustrated when our partner doesn’t see it like we see it. And when our attempts toconvince or persuade our partner to see it our wayContinueContinue reading “Partners on Opposite Sides of the Mountain”
Michael D. McVey, LMFT 