Our family defines us. Shapes and molds us. For better or worse, our family has by far the biggest influence on who we become. As parents, we owe it to our children to give them the best possible experience of family that we can. And that can be hard work. Very hard. But what isContinue reading “Family Therapy”
I truly believe the answers are inside you. I can’t wait to help you find them.
If you are reading this, you might be wondering if you need couples counseling. I’m not here to say you do or don’t. Only you can decide that. But having experienced couples counseling myself, I would say that EVERYONE can benefit from it, even if they don’t necessarily NEED it.
Couples need a solid foundation of love and friendship, and walls made of trust and commitment. On this foundation and between these walls, the whole relationship is built. Establishing or restoring these is where counseling begins.
Talking about times when there was no problem serves to remind you that, hey, it wasn’t always like this, and it doesn’t have to continue to be like this. And perhaps most importantly, it helps you begin to envision a future without the problem.
Internal Family Systems therapy seeks to resolve the conflict between our parts by treating them like any other quarreling family members. The idea is that returning your internal family to its natural state of balance and harmony allows our true Self to emerge.
When our thoughts are positive, our feelings and actions tend to be. When our feelings are positive, we do and think good things. When we take positive action, our thoughts and feelings follow along. Whichever leads, the others follow.
Even if we are sitting across from one person, we are still considering how change in that one person will result iinchage in that person’s spouse, friends, children, etc. We tend to think we are not sitting across from only one person, even when there is only one person sitting across from us.
So many different credentials, all those initials. How do I make sense of them all? How do I know which type of counselor or therapist is best for me?